Meditation: 5 Phases of My Meditation Journey

Meditation hasn’t been easy for me but, I can say it has been the single most important factor in my development as a medium. If you go to the Arthur Findlay College: The Worlds Foremost College of the Advancement of Spiritualism and Psychic Sciences in Stansted England, the tutors there will stress the importance of meditating or sitting in your power as a daily activity. In fact, most tutors have the students begin every morning with sitting in the power. 

Meditation will help you to calm your fears, anxieties, and thoughts. We all have had monkey mind while meditating where are thoughts range from fear to dreams and wishes. It’s the way our mind works, however; there have been many studies that show how learning to tame or quiet the mind has many positive effects on us emotionally, physically, and spiritually. 

Buddha taught his students 2500 years ago to meditate to quiet the monkey mind. This allowed the monks to focus more and lead a more productive life. 

As mediums, meditation serves the purpose of helping us to calm our minds allowing the spirit world to communicate easier. Meditation helps mediums to stay focused and more disciplined while working. Meditation is also key in meeting our guides and helpers in the spirit world. 

For me, there are levels of learning to meditate. As I grew and learned how to effectively meditate, my meditations began to evolve into something much more than just quieting my mind. 

Everyone is different. The following may not necessarily be the order in which you learn. That’s okay. This is about you and what works for you. This is how my meditation evolved.

Taming the Monkey Mind

One of my favorite books is Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert.  The book is about Elizabeth’s journey to find herself after quitting her high profile job in New York and finally deciding to divorce her husband. She sets out to Italy first and then goes on to India. Elizabeth gets real about meditation and learning to tame the monkey mind. Here is an excerpt that captures the monkey mind perfectly.  

I rolled in the floor laughing every time she began to meditate and her monkey mind would come floating in taking her away from the task at hand. It described me perfectly! The struggle is real folks and after eight years of meditating, the struggle is still alive and well. 

There are several thoughts on how to tame the monkey mind. You can acknowledge the thoughts and send them on their way, you can focus on your breath, or you can have a mantra to repeat which will help you to focus. I promise over time, it will get easier. I cannot promise the monkey mind thoughts will go away forever but, we can always hope! 

I personally have tried all of the above. What I found to work for me the best, especially in the beginning, was to imagine or visualized a little man in my mind sweeping away the thoughts. It was my way of clearing the clutter or thoughts. When a thought came in, my little man would enter with his broom and sweep them away. Sometimes he stayed for a while. 

I no longer have to use the little man. I’ve moved on to focusing on my breath or saying a mantra. 

My advice to you is to find something that works for you and don’t give up. You will get there. 

Guided Meditations

Learning to meditate was definitely a learning curve for me. I really had no idea what I was doing. My instructions were from a friend who didn’t know how to meditate either! She told me to close my eyes and turn on some instrumental music which I did. I listened to the music with my eyes closed and watched the little man in my mind sweep away the thoughts until one day I finally got smart and Googled mediations. I’m slow but, I do get there eventually. 

Unbeknownst to me, there is a whole world out there on meditating and you can even find free guided meditations on the internet. I thought I had found a goldmine! I downloaded a plethora of guided meditations.

I must admit, it made a big difference. It was easier for me to keep my monkey mind at bay. I had someone talking to me leading me through the mediation.  At last, I had found the secret to learning to meditate. 

Meeting Your Guides

Tony Stockwell is a medium in the United Kingdom who had his own TV show. I had stumbled across a CD he had made on a guided meditation on meeting your guide. Click here to buy his CD. Imagine the excitement when I realized, I might be able to meet my own guide. 

I didn’t meet my guide in the beginning but, I kept doing the meditation hoping a guide would eventually come. One day, while meditating, I began to see what Tony was describing except it wasn’t a guide. It was my dad. 

Now, I had been communicating with my dad for a long time but, I didn’t see him. This time I saw him clearly. It was a very emotional meeting that day to be sitting with my dad who had been gone for nearly 30 years. 

For a while, it was my dad who came. Then my grandfather came and one day, my dad brought a sister who died before I was born. 

Eventually, my guide appeared. 

It was on that day, my life changed forever. I could see my guide clearly. 

He walked up to me and then sat down in front of me. He looked into my eyes and without saying a word, I knew I knew this man. I felt peace and incredible love flowing from him to me. No words were spoken but, a mountain of knowledge was gained. 

I continued to meet him in my meditations. Each one went exactly as the first. No words were spoken yet, knowledge was gained. 

I looked forward to meeting with him every day. It truly was the highlight of each day. 

For an entire year, I sat on my floor in my living room, closed my eyes and waited for him to come. I did this every single day. By this time,  I had worked up to meditating for 45 minutes to an hour. 

Meditating Without Music 

As you grow more disciplined in your meditation practice and have your monkey mind under control, you can begin to meditate without music. Music serves as a focus for you. In the beginning, it is necessary for most of us or at least it was for me. It’s nice to know, you can meditate in complete silence too. Many people meditate while walking in nature. I’ve always said I’m closest to God when I walk in a forest. I didn’t quite understand the reason for that until now. 

My guides will often say to me, let us go for a walk. I know when they do this, it means we are about to have an important conversation. 

My mentor who has been a medium for over 50 years, had difficulty learning to meditate the traditional way.  She had a special tree she would go to when she wanted to speak with her guide. Today, she speaks to him while she does her ironing. 

I still meditate today. My relationship with my guides has grown tremendously. I talk to them many times throughout my day. They are my companion. 

I hope your goal will be to do the same. You want your relationship to grow into a deep trusted friendship. Your guide should be your constant companion stepping in to teach and guide when requested.

Sitting Within the Power

Sitting in the power is different than normal meditation. This is something mediums can do to build their own power. When working as a medium, you must step into your power to allow the spirit world to come close enough to blend with your energy. The stronger your power, the easier it is for the spirit world to work with you. 

This is an exercise to help you expand your own energy field and to connect with the Infinite Divine Higher Power of God, Buddha, Allah or whatever you wish to name it. The only conversation, if any, is with your Higher Power. Thirty to sixty minutes is sufficient. It is the # 1 trick for all mediums in mediumship development!

You can learn more about sitting in the power here

Learning to meditate and close down the mind is not easy for many and for some, it may never happen. The most important thing is you learn to quiet the mind enough to eventually be able to communicate with your guides on a regular basis. 

The key here is to find what works for you. Don’t worry if you don’t fit into the same box as everyone else.  Find your own way and walk your truth.